HOW TO HAVE A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP…

I can't rank myself as a very good lover but yours truly knows a thing or two when it comes to the matters of the heart and thats why the judge today has decided to try his hand at being a love doctor(sic).According to me;

Good relationships are based on love, mutual respect and willingness to put effort into the relationship. In a good relationship, both people are honest with each other. Both people feel safe in the relationship and do not worry that the other will betray their trust.

Both find enjoyment and pleasure in the relationship, and neither person tries to control the other or to pressure them into doing things.

Neither person exploits or takes advantage of the other in any way. There are several qualities that make a relationship healthy:

Respect: to honour your partner, to hold them in high regard or esteem, and to treat them as if they are worthwhile even if they are different from you.

Responsibility: others can depend and rely on you, that you do as you say and you are able to distinguish right from wrong. For example, you take responsibility for taking care of your own health and well-being and that of your partner and your family, including protecting them against HIV infection.

Understanding: to be knowledgeable about another person, to try to understand his or her position or feelings, or to listen and support someone.

Cooperation: to put effort into the relationship, and not take the other person for granted. It involves willingness to work with someone to be in a relationship and sustain it.

Caring: To be concerned and interested in another persons feelings and needs, and to want what is best for that person..ama vipi mafans?

 

THE TRUE SAD LOVE STORIES OF NUC..

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THE NUC ACHIEVERS EDITION: ROSEMARY WAIRIMU ON THE DOCK…

At only 20yrs, she has achieved what many can only dream of and she’s  is raring to go on and on as she’s  a unstoppable go-getter. Meet Rosemary popularly known as Rowzie, a 2^nd yr student majoring in BBM at Narok University College as she dissects her genius in the world of accountancy and finances to the NESHCOURT.

NESH COURT: Who are you? What would you say if you were to describe yourself? (She looks taken back by the question)

ROWZIE: mmmmhh,I would say that I’m a young girl who is a go-getter, as  in I believe in getting the job done all the way to the end,im very prayerful and I think I’m a perfectionist too. My friends say I’m very shy but I doubt!

NESH COURT: Tell us about your childhood?

ROWZIE:I grew up as ordinary child on the Molo area where we did usual chores done by other girls in the village such as cooking and fetching water, it was a lot of fun. We later moved to Nakuru.

NESHCOURT:What about your family?(gets a distant look in her face as if recalling something)

ROWZIE:Okey,I was brought up by a single mother, I had only one sister who is elder than me. I lost my mum when I was 12yrs old which was a big blow to our family but we still moved on. Up to today my mum is my mentor and she will forever be. She instilled in me the values of hard-work, dedication and commitment to anything I decide to do.

NESHCOURT:So sorry about your mum,im sure she’s  very proud of you wherever she is, how about your academic  background? Could you give a short history?

ROSEMARY: Well, all I can say is that all my life in school have never loved mathematics (I, interrupt to congratulate her for at least sharing that passion with me!)But I was very sharp in English and business studies. I had my eyes sharply focused to  be a journalist and it was never in my mind that I would ever want to do anything else!

NESH COURT:Ooh,so you actually wanted to be a journalist,? don’t worry I wanted to be a long distance bus driver but I’m  doing journalism too hence I will still be travelling, so  you still have a chance for becoming a journalist! Now that you landed in accounts, could you please send some light on the whole issue and how you started?

 ROWZIE:After form four I did a course in computer and after clearing it my elder sister suggested that I take some courses in accounting. I had  the notion  that it’s all about mathematics so I was not for the idea that I take accounts. What I did not know at that time was that she had already paid my fees at Molo College of Accountancy. She told me to go for just two days and if I did not like it I should quit. Being naturally a person who never quits, I reported to the college and decided to combine both section one and two of the CPA(certified public accountant)so as to fail and punish my sister so that she would not dream of paying for me again! On the second day I found myself falling in love with the course as it was not entirely on mathematics. The fact that I was very good in  business worked to my advantage. It my policy in life to never stop mid-way in anything I start so from there I had my mind set on the fact that it was going on and on without stopping up to the last session.

NESHCOURT:Wow!im proud of you and challenged by your determination, how  did you manage to sail through without failing or quitting?

ROWZIE:(blushing)weuwe!I did not sail through. But I failed in one of the simplest areas which is taxation in the last section (6) but I repeated it and came out clean managed that by sheer hardwork, focus and determination. Nothing  is impossible Nesh.

NESHOURT:True that, na sasa  tuongee  biashara,I here you have already clinched a job for yourself with the communications commission of Kenya (CCK)..Shed some light because I’m about to encourage my cousin to throw his heart-matters CV to your side!so ka-HELB kako we will be sharing?!

ROWZIE:(laughing heartily) You are a joker! Anyway, its true I was encouraged by a good friend to send my CV to CCK and it was by sheer luck that I was offered a place .They required a full time person but I can only report there over the holidays! It was the first time I was writing the CV and I thought mine would not be considered because I did not have a lot of experience.Im reporting the very first day we close for the long holidays.

NESH COURT: You are an amazing lady, good for you because at CCK you will still have a chance to be in the media as you wanted to be a journalist, I think it will be a good chance for me to come and market myself there using your name! By the way, what are your future plans for I  trust this is not the end for you?

ROWZIE:I plan to clear with my Bachelors of business undergraduate degree and specialize in insurance. For now I’m thinking of starting with CPS(certified public Secretary) soonest possible. I plan to work with a big financial institution in the long run and I have the central bank of Kenya under my scope. I plan to join a big band as a guitarist too as well. I also hope to join the modeling industry before I settle down as a mother and wife with my children and husband.

NESHCOURT:Go on girl! Wish you all the best and all is possible. What have you been doing to inspire your fellow students in NUC who are taking accounts?

ROWZIE:I have been an active official of Narok University accounting students association (NUASA)this is a club that promotes and encourages the accounting students in this university have been an assistant organizing secretary.Im also a teacher, I have been teaching several students in CPA,for example among them is the current academic director Steve Biko.

NESHCOURT:Now,a lot of students have taken up CPA and dropped mid way or on the start including yours truly  of Neshcourt  who “ate” CPA fees with a Chuka university lecturer! What message do you have for such students, those that feel like they picked CPA by a wrong chance?

ROWZIE: Well, most students are dropping out due to peer pressure from their friends. For example it’s on a Friday and all your friends are going out for rave and you have to be left in the library doing your studies, then they fail one part one feels like they are being left out.Onother misconception doing rounds is that people who have reached the final section are never considered for the jobs because they are thought to be expensive. Fact is, that is not true, employers will always go for the top most level. I remember that at one point while I was taking section 3 and 4 I almost quit but it’s by Gods grace that I remained faithful to  my dream .I urge them to hold on  and they will emerge victors.

NESHCOURT: So, there must be life beyond those accounting books and calculators, how do you unwind?

ROWZIE:I love singing, I recently leant how to play the guitar, I write poetry,watch movies with my girlfriends. I also love to play computer games such as NFS and GTA.

NESHCOURT:(with a chuckle)yesterday  when I ran an advert on FB about this interview, a lot of smitten guys were like, remember  to include her photo and phone number!Unfortunately,im sure they are not looking for somebody with CPA to give a job but to share their love, so are you dating?!

ROWZIE:(smiling shyly)Yes I’m dating. I emphasize that I’m not in a relationship.

NESHCOURT: so, does that mean one can throw their CV your way?

ROWZIE:weuwe!!No, I said I’m dating a wonderful guy and all I can disclose for now is that he is schooling in Kenyatta University.

NESHCOURT: Wow! Thats wonderful, but then I’m sure this must have broken many a hearts in NUC including one Nthiga of FB who really wanted your number but compe ni compe so ..nitampea still!!(Laughing loudly)

Before we wind up,could you say 3 things that people don’t know about you?

ROWZIE:1.kikuyu and luhya half-cast, my Luhyia name is Namikhoye

                  2.I hate chocolates so much,yhhack!!

                   3.I can be irritatingly noisy despite many people thinking I’m very calm and quiet(ask                                                   

                       My roomies)

NESHCOURT:Thanks for your time, you are such a determined lady and we wish you all the best, parting shot?

ROWZIE:I urge the youth to embrace individuality, be original, you are not your cousin, your friend or even your sister, the moment you start being yourself everything falls in place!!

“DEFER YOUR COURSES AND VACATE THE VARSITY PREMISES BY MONDAY”WARNS THE PRINCIPAL TO THOSE WHO HAVE NOT CLEARED FEES.

Yesterday at around mid-afternoon a memo signed by the principal of NUC Prof.Serem was posted on the notice boards carrying a message that from Monday the exam cards will start being issued and if one has not signed the nominal roll-read, cleared fees! Should  defer their courses and vacate the varsity premises by Monday.

The memo was met with outrage by students who felt that it was unfair and that the message was passed with an intimidation tone.

 “I have cleared my fees and so I want my services provided. When we opened for the semester we were welcomed with a memo promising heaven and now not a single thing has been achieved,look at the condition of  the mess building which was supposed to have been completed last month, where  is the university  bus? where is the journalism students lab which was said to be already in place? So the principal has also failed and nobody is harassing him to vacate the office, instead of improving the work-study and internal bursary programme the administration is busy threatening the students! Where are the students leaders that are barely a week old into the system, swear I will scan that letter and send it to parliament trough my area MP!”Ranted a former powerful member of SGC  to NESHCOURT.He  was clearly not  amused by the turn of events. I was later informed that he is likely to make his threats real as he is related to a powerful MP who is a member of the parliamentary education committee.

The NESHCOURT can boldly claim that the better part of last week there has been no internet services in the library and the computer lab. This is a mistake at this crucial time when students are sitting for their CATS and so they are undergoing untold suffering. The same case can be told of the situation in the mess where things never get better, food is never enough and you have to be among the very first to arrive to get served your choice meal. The residents in the Maara hostels are still complaining about the state of their hostel, from dirty water to poor lighting system to the state of cleanliness in the corridors.

This state of affairs and confusion  galore comes around barely a week after the new SGC was delivered with promises  to solve students problems. But  truth be told, it’s so sad that  SOME of them are still in the politics arena and are so busy  countering the rest of the leaders to prove who is smarter now but my message to them as a student of NUC is that they have exactly two semesters in office and the first one is halfway.Histrory will judge them harshly by how they perform and we have it in records that every negative deed they carry out not aimed at promotion of student unity will not be tolerated by their number one employer: the  NUC students-let transparency prevail!

Once you get into the public office make it your mandate to serve everybody with the fairness he/she deserves because immediately you get sworn in you become a leader of all and not a few clansmen who elected you. I pray that the new leaders hold up unity among themselves because once the administration and the barons of tribal politics get to see even the tiniest of cracks among them, they will have a field day controlling them like puppets.

Good people of NUC,yours  truly of NESHCOURT as a lot to say and  this time I will not spare anybody who acts in any way of impunity at the expense of justice and fairness,im  ready to name and shame the perpetrators of impunity in public offices for it’s the role of this tough court to do that..Just watch this space.

And by the way..

1. Somebody tell me where the fire-extinguishers in the hostels went, this is the 3^rd time  I’m asking.

2.What has happened to the water-tap outside Serengeti(idlers  from Mara and Serengeti who like washing clothes under the tree as they discuss cheap politics and gossip are having a hard time,kama mimi sijui nitafua lini!)

HELB:BLESSING OR CURSE IN CASH DISGUISE??

The elections are over,the CATS are beckoning and the HELB is almost ending,
One of the joys of being a comrade is the privilege of having a multi-billion shilling government funded kitty to utilize however it is deemed fit. Of course these monies are meant to be repaid once one starts earning an income but the general rule that applies is that the future will sort itself out when it graduates to the present. Thus, the curse of ‘the little brown men’.
Of course there are exceptions which include the perceivably shady village bred folk and the goody two shoes types who eat, sleep and dream of the library amidst much mockery and disdain. The result is that most eventually end up going with the flow succumbing to the pressure from their peers. So what exactly constitutes the average cycle of the HELB loan?
At first it starts as a rumor. Someone posts it on Facebook, a phone call here and there and voila, that eagerly awaited confirmation that ‘the little brown men’ have actually landed in town. It could be any amount between Sh. 5,000 to Sh. 30,000 but the excitement that it’s arrival elicits is unquantifiable.
The first step is always to reduce the amount to ‘manageable levels’. After all, student accounts are not known to host large sums of money so in order to relieve undue duress on the account it is only reasonable to withdraw a modest sum. This maiden withdrawal is usually to the tune of a couple of thousands and may be used to purchase liquor, pizza’s, chocolate and what have you. Whatever remains out of it may be squandered.
Traditionally, HELB usually arrives between a week and a weekend before the reporting date. Since comrades are still at home, it is requisite that they entertain their neighbors, extended family and fellow villagers before heading back to campus. Besides, how else will they know you are in the University?
Upon arrival, there is the little ritual of getting reacquainted with friends after a long period apart. This could be in the form of shopping, partying, raving, throwing parties, going out…well, you get the drift. Woe unto (s)he who refuses to partake in these customary practices as they shall be labeled stingy, uncool and plotless.
In the early weeks of the semester, the student center is a hub of activities as comrades flock the establishment to mingle and interact over drinks and delicacies such as beef and chicken. However, as the semester progresses, the diet gradually changes to chicken products such as eggs served with ugali. Towards the end, it will have evolved into chicken food which essentially implies cereals like green grams and githeri.
It has been established that there exists an inverse relationship between HELB and relationships. When the bank balance is high, coupling in campus is often at it’s peak often at the gentleman’s bill. When the tide in the bank account goes down, romance sinks to an all time low.
By the end of the semester, many a comrade are penniless, loveless and oblivious of the piling debt sheet at the 18th floor of Anniversary Towers where the fund’s headquarters are located. Much to the joy of the nerds and the